I think it’s important to know what kind of person you want to be. To know what your values are. To know what you’re working towards.
Sometimes, after a particularly bumpy day, i.e. after a day full of procrastination, binge-watching TV binge-eating on junk food, bad-mouthing others and complaining about other things, you might discover “this is actually not a type of person that I want to be”.
I mean, more often than not we do know that we don’t want to be like this. It’s just that sometimes it might hit us bit harder than usual and prompt us to actually do something about it.
So it’s important to be clear about our values. But not only that: the thing is that one actually has to live their values, and not only “have” them. What point is there in talking all the time about how you value health and how you know all about healthy eating and being fit, but you have nothing to show for it (cause you’re overweight)? Or that you don’t like how people are judgmental and criticizing others, but you actually do the same thing? You don’t necessarily have to care what other people think of you and that they will see that you say one thing and do another; but deep down, you probably know yourself that you’re all talk and no action and that is not who you want to be.
At least I know it. So:
I don’t want to be a person that complains all the time and doesn’t take action about the things that cause her to be miserable. I don’t want the others to perceive me as a negative, always-having-issues-to-solve mess.
I want to say less negative things about other people; I’d prefer to just state some facts about them rather than complain, and try to see good in them.
Also, if someone has views and values drastically different from mine, I don’t want to waste time trying to change them, and I don’t want to waste my free time recalling things they said that I didn’t agree with or behavior that really pissed me off.
I want to procrastinate less; not to constantly put off unpleasant but important tasks such as finishing my master’s thesis or doing a chore I hate. That way when I choose to take a break or watch TV or play the Sims or whatever, it is actually a choice and not an escape from responsibilities, and I can enjoy it guilt-free.
I want to take care of my health so that my cravings don’t control me. I’ve been saying it for many, many years now that I want to be healthy/fit/exercise regularly but I’ve yet to establish the habits to help me with that – right now I have habits of exercising only when I feel like it and overeating.
I don’t want to be overwhelmed by the physical stuff I own. I want to have less and enjoy the freedom that comes from it. I want to focus on quality, not quantity.
I want to be a good and honest person.
And many other things. But for now, it would be good to focus even on these few on the list, as I just became painfully aware of the fact that acting against my values in the short-term not only takes me further away from my long-term goals but also makes me feel really bad about myself.
Cause no one wants to be a hypocrite.